[貪污心理學] (下)
☆ 一旦貪污被揭發，就要學習「放下」！
余澹富說：
上星期「真陰公」來我的輔導所幫襯我，
我早一天已經知道他的貪污被傳播媒介揭發了，
所以我就教他「放下」所有這些令他不開心的事情。
我說：
只要閣下拒絕回水，只要閣下身體健康，
那一些損失了的少少名譽，濕濕碎啦！
做行政長官有辛苦的時候，
當然也應該有風光的時候及享福的時候，對不對！
不好好地享受一下，未免太過辜負自己，
而且好像有點浪費生命，浪費辛苦得來的權力！
香港是福地，
香港人自有香港人的福氣，不需要你去勞心，
做不了的事情不要去做，好好袋好你的薪酬。
眼前最重要的事，就是計劃一下如何享受未來的生活！
☆ 當一個人還有翻身的機會時，只需要鼓勵！
跌倒了就要起來，千萬不要承認失敗；
要再接再厲，繼續作戰！
Defeat is a state of mind;
no one is ever defeated until
defeat has been accepted as a reality.
( Bruce Lee )
Never forget that a saint is a sinner
who keeps on trying.
( Nelson Mandela )
Victory is always possible for the person
who refuses to stop fighting.
( Napoleon Hill )
☆ 當一個人真正失敗時，最需要同情和鼓勵！
一個成功的心理學家必須明白
A word of encouragement during a failure is
worth more than an hour of praise after success.
Encouragement and words of kindness are gifts
you give that can be priceless and yet cost nothing.
一般人喜歡用比較來提升自己，
亦喜歡用比較來推諉責任，
這種心理狀況值得好好利用。
所以我請「真陰公」大聲念出四段文字，兩段中文及兩段英文：
相對於冷雪芳，我已經算是知道羞恥為何物，
我喜歡自己、我接納自己、我唔需要改變、我係我。
我從來都不走別人走過的路，
我走的是以前沒有人走過的路，並且留下自己的腳印。
那美好的仗我已經打過了，當跑的路我已經跑盡了，
我有福氣，我已經擁有過豐盛的生命，活過精采的大半生。
貪污是我最大的快樂，成為行政長官是我畢生的榮譽！
I am what I am and I do what I want to do.
No approval is needed.
It makes life so much easier.
I am perfect in my imperfections.
I don’t own all the problems in this world
and so I decided to shirk my responsibility.
I have forgiven myself for all my mistakes,
forgotten all my past evil deeds,
and forgotten the misery I went through.
I have made peace with myself,
I am now living in the present and
I decide to move forward with my life.
So here I am, without shame or guilt,
letting go of the people who put me down
or dull my shine, and
eliminating all the people who disrespect me.
With positive thinking, I choose to shine
after all the storms I’ve been through and
I think of the beauty that still remains.
Life is just wonderful！
我決定每天都要吹一吹口哨，開開心心，
不時緬懷一下光輝的歲月！
如果電視和記者問我：「你幸福嗎？」
我會記得拈花微笑，然後答他：「我姓真，名字是開心。」
即使額頭滴汗，我也不會忘記微笑，
因為只要你每天都微笑，全世界都會跟著你笑。
所以我每天都要做四件笑事：
第一是起床後微笑，
第二是常常和別人開玩笑，
第三是無緣無故開懷大笑，
第四是電視上見到冷雪芳說謊時冷笑。
笑到最後的人才會笑得最甜！
Each morning when I open my eyes, I say to
myself : “I, not events, have the power to make
me happy or unhappy today. I can choose
which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow
hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today,
and I’m going to be happy in it.”
( Grouche Marx )
一星期後，「真陰公」寄來一張小咭片，
上面寫著幾段中英夾雜的文字：
Sometimes it takes a crisis for us to distinguish
our true friends from fake ones. In my time of
need, you were there, not only with your
professional support, with wise and caring
words that encouraged, but also with ability to
heal my wound and help me go on. You make
me feel that I am cared for and supported.
You stood by me when millions were against me.
You understand my past, know all my mistakes
and weaknesses, accept me the way I am, still
think I am completely amazing, and believe in
my future. A friend who understands my tears
is a real friend. He is much more valuable
than lots of friends who only know my smile.
You are indeed my real friend！
在我快樂和有權勢的時候，你沒有奉承我；
在我有需要的時候，你關心我，搞盡腦汁，默默為我付出，
那才是真正的朋友！
你對我的肯定，完全消除了我的自卑和心虛。
幾時會有機會我們聚一聚，
一起吃粟米斑腩飯，飲添蜜肥雞湯，如何？
I remember an American newspaper
and radio commentator Walter Winchell
once said, “A real friend is one who walks
in when the rest of the world walks out.”
Real friends believe in you.
Thank you so much for everything！
十分遺憾當年我有權勢的時候，沒有好好地對待你！
The people who stick by you at your worst
deserve to enjoy being with you at your best.
( Owen Campbell Jr. )