[溫故知新]
我們明白追求智慧,必須先學習將人分類,因為
1. 人以類聚,近朱者赤,近墨者黑,
我們需要選擇朋友和人生導師,
2. 向上、向前的人還有理想要實現,
需要接近和個人理想有關的那些有才華及勤奮的人,
需要慎防被喜歡停滯的人拖累,
因為我們需要同一層次的人的鼓勵和支持,
而且無謂意圖面面俱圓,希望到處都是朋友。
Socrates, my master, is my friend
but a greater friend is truth.
(Plato)
我們明白追求智慧,必須對真理謙卑,
所以必須放下面子,必須論斷別人的思想,
更加歡迎別人論斷自己的思想,一起進步。
尊重一個人絕對不等於尊重他的思想,
為了尊重別人而虐待自己,絕對是對自己的不尊重,
可一不可再,甚至一次都嫌多。
當我們明白追求智慧,必須歧視愚昧的思想,
明白思想上「去蕪存菁」必然是一種歧視,
追求「至善至正」必然是一種勢利,
只有智慧不足的人才會大聲疾呼「不要歧視」。
我們因為「歧視」才會去蕪,「尊重」才會存菁!
所以追求智慧是人世間唯一的「奇門遁蠢」之術!
在這篇「短暫總結、溫故知新」的文章中,
筆者嘗試將一年以來各界朋友們和筆者分享的銅句改寫,
加上了必要的條件和應用範疇,然後才夠膽和大家分享。
以下是筆者改寫的一些和智慧有關的句子,
自以為算得上是銀句,但願後來者能夠將它們改寫成金句。
Honesty and integity is the best policy.
Every action and decision you make
should be based on honesty and integity.
Be honest with yourself and with your
loved ones, especially in times of conflict.
Only with honesty and integity can you be
true to yourself and create your life
the way you want it. When moral principle,
not moral dogma, is involved, don’t budge.
We only compromise on matters of taste
or opinions without serious consequences.
( Jason Ling )
道貌岸然、自以為有智慧的勵志者,
常常喜歡訓誨我們不要「論斷」人,
期望我們願意浪費自己的生命在和自己無關的人身上,
因為他們不懂得科學裡有一樣東西叫做「假說/猜想」。
It is only shallow people
who do not judge by appearances.
( Oscar Wilde )
Don’t ever think that you yourself alone
have the ability to save the world.
Don’t take yourself or life too seriously
unless you are prepared and ready.
Accept your limitations.
Accept what cannot be changed.
Accept what is beyond our control after
thorough preparation and proper precautions.
Don’t think that you can be good friend to
everybody because you don’t have enough
time to spend with each of them.
Your prayer is merely a drop in the bucket,
and also don’t assume your prayer has power.
( Jason Ling )
由於「歧視愚昧,歧視蕪,尊重真理,尊重菁」,
擇善固執,擇菁固執,和虛偽劃清界線,
理性和思考才會得到社會的尊重,
人類才會有「精神文明」和「品味」這回事。
歧視愚蠢人和歧視愚蠢,絕對是兩回事!
我們不應該歧視愚蠢人,
因為愚蠢人熱衷於從事超乎自己能力的工作,
只要不去害人,不影響到公眾的利益,
eat, play, excrete, recycle, sleep,
是他個人的選擇,與我們無關。除非……
除非愚蠢人從事公職,
除非愚蠢人駕駛交通工具,
除非愚蠢人在劍橋安老院中工作,
除非愚蠢人從事會影響世道人心的工作!
那麼,從公眾的利益出發,
愚蠢人涉嫌「在公眾地方思想或行為不檢」,
我們既歧視愚蠢人的愚蠢,也歧視愚蠢人。
Whenever a person does not try to influence
others with his folly, we should, of course,
respect his choice to remain foolish and
forgive him for our own peace of mind.
Yes, we can find humour in just about
any situation and this is definitely one.
Anyone not in public service has a right
to live his own life the way he wants to.
Yes, both bad taste and foolishness are
human rights for anyone not in public service.
Without this understanding, no one can be
empathetic to the oppressed.
Always put limitations on your love.
Don’t love the tyrants, the oppressors.
And you have no right to forgive them
on behalf of their victims.
( Jason Ling )
參考:《歧視和尊重》 《論斷》(三)
有道貌岸然的人教導我們:
愛不是尋找一個完美的人,
而是學會用完美的眼光,
包容,原諒,甚至欣賞一個居心不良,
或者思考力又不足而又熱心助人的愚蠢人。
珍惜彼此之間的關係。
道貌岸然的人也許明白:
智者不必仁,仁者不必智,
但聰明人經過批判或者碰壁之後,就會明白:
仁者必須智,否則如何仁?
Without complementary wisdom, evils can be done,
either consciously or unconsciously,
in the name of love. In other words,
love and wisdom must go hand in hand together.
( Jason Ling )
換言之,愛和智慧必須手牽手,一同合作,
一旦有人認為愛可以不需要智慧,就會出現「假愛」!
「假愛」的英文是 pseudo love ,
不妨對歧視中文的人再從英文翻譯回來,沾一沾光:
pseudo love 咪就係「輸到甩褲」,一鋪清袋囉!
我們可以想像一個人去賭場時一旦押錯了注,
輸到甩褲,結果一鋪清袋,喊到老豆老母死都冇咁淒涼,
人民見到都覺得可憐。
禍福相倚伏,有人喊,自然就有人笑,
黥面的倀妓就喜不自禁,知道自己被嫖的機會來了!
青樓名妓和倀妓那種「假愛」,有誰願意「袋住先」?
有誰敢說愚樂圈的創意成語「等埋發叔」妓不娛人?
Help when you are able,
without trying to change the other person
or ask him to go to a church, a temple,
or a monastry in return.
Try to brighten and enlighten the day of
those hopeful you come into contact with,
not in their own way, but in the empathic
way which requires lots of wisdom.
( Jason Ling )
Do not do what you ego tells you to love.
Do what you soul tells you to love.
We spend a great deal of our life working.
So choose a career that we enjoy.
the extra money of a job we dislike
isn’t worth it because we betray our souls.
Many people waste most of their lives,
especially those in business.
In view of the fact that the bad guys always
do what makes them happy and fulfilled,
remember morality and integrity must be
the top priority in our career.
( Jason Ling )
Count your blessings, all of them,
even the things that seem trivial.
Develop a childlike sense of wonder.
Don’t take anything for granted.
Be thankful that you woke up alive
each morning, eat well, sleep well,
excrete well, have time for exercise,
have time to contact with nature,
have time to see the beauty around you,
the beauty of every living thing and
every human being whose mind is alive
and whose soul is still intact.
And most importantly, be thankful that
you grow intellectually or spiritually
before going to sleep. That means
you make the most of each day.
If you can live each day fully,
you are living in the present,
you can face death square on the face,
and you know you are not answering
to anybody about your life but yourself.
( Jason Ling )
我們明白追求智慧,必須致力「認識自己」,
而開放的心靈又會認識到東方的「命理學」,
在「認識自己」及「人生規劃」兩方面,
都有其他學問無可取代的功能。
當一個人開始接觸「做學問」這種功夫的時候,
就知道沒有人能夠擁有事情的所有答案;
當一個人認識了世間上有一種抽象的概念,
叫做「性格」,
及一種抽象的現象,叫做「命運」的時候,
就明白沒有人能夠完全肯定一件事情的結果,
所以「天行健,君子以自強不息」及
「未雨綢繆,盡人事,聽天命」,
就成為了中國傳統思想中的信仰和智慧!
下一篇,我們會再探討「信仰」這個課題,
再度審視「追求智慧和建設信仰」的關係。